He thinks about it every day
And no, “it” doesn’t mean sex!
I am always wondering how much my husband is affected by the whole situation, because he always seems so cool and untouched by the sadness that sometimes I feel like he doesn’t care. I know he does, but he doesn’t behave like he does.
There is not one day that goes by that I don’t think about the babies I lost and if we will ever be able to have a baby. There are days when I think about it only once. There are days when I spend the entire day researching, writing, talking to people about it. I always wondered how much my husband thinks about it.
A few days ago I was waiting for my period to start so I could schedule some tests. I had already set daily reminders on my computer’s calendar from July to September with the cycle day number and when I had to call to do what. He was making the grocery list and I told him I needed pads and tampons, he asked if my period was going to start and reminded me to call the doctor’s office. I replied saying that I knew that I had to call, of course.
And he said OK, I know you are thinking about it too, because I think about it every day.
That made my day.
Sorry that I didnt leave you my complete name and my real email address. I just want you to know that there is so much hope for you. Recently, I suffered and I do mean suffered THREE MISCARRIAGES in a ROW. Two ended in a D&C. One miscarried naturally. I did eventually become pregnant after my D&C. I was 35 years old. I have a healthy 5 month old baby boy now! So many women suffer MULTIPLE miscarriages only to finally deliver a baby. I know that this may not make you feel better BUT please, Dear, know there is hope. Please don’t give up. I know its hard. People say the craziest things after you miscarriage. Some people are even rude about it. I struggled so hard with the grief and the pain of it. I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. Its the BIGGEST LOSS. I have talked to many women about miscarriage and I have found that so many women DO miscarry MULTIPLY and do eventually have children. My heart goes out to you. My heart bleeds for you. And, you are in my prayers. May God bless you soon with a beautiful baby…and may all the angels you have lost cheer you on.
Posted 3 years, 2 months agoHi Angel,
Posted 3 years, 2 months agoI also had three miscarriages in a row, and it’s good to know you had a baby after that. I know there is hope, but I also know that we could very well have another miscarriage next time. That’s why we are looking for answers. I don’t know if we will find any, but we have to search.
The internet makes the world much smaller and we find so many other women that have had multiple miscarriages, but the fact is that only less than 1% of the population goes through 3 miscarriages or more. So while I don’t feel alone in the blogosphere, I do feel alone in my friend’s and family’s circles.
Thank you for your kind words, it’s always good to hear that
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